Swiping right can be an exciting feeling, but a successful date goes way beyond a well-curated profile picture and witty bio.
Building a genuine connection with someone online is what takes a first encounter from awkward to awesome…
Contrary to popular belief, it is possible to find love with online dating! Here’s how you can move beyond the initial spark and create a strong foundation for something much deeper and more fulfilling…
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Beyond the Swipe: Looking for Genuine Connection?
Sure, physical attraction matters, but a long-lasting connection requires much more. Here are some tips for fostering genuine connection on your dates:
- Go Beyond Small Talk: Small talk is for those initial conversations when online dating. However, when you meet in person, it’s time to dig deeper than the weather or what you do for a living. Instead, ask open-ended questions that reveal passions, interests, and values. What are they passionate about? What are their dreams and aspirations? Would they still fancy you if you were a slug?
- Take Your Time: While it’s great to go deep in conversation on a first date, you should be mindful of what you talk about. For example, while there’s no shame in having a large collection of sex toys with rechargeable vibrators and anal beads to boot…but, bringing it up on a first dinner date might be a little too forward.
- Active Listening: Don’t just wait for your turn to speak. Pay attention to their answers, ask follow-up questions, and show genuine interest in what they have to say. Otherwise, what’s the point?
- Find Common Ground: Discovering shared interests or experiences fosters connection. Talk about hobbies, favorite movies, or travel adventures. But don’t force it! Celebrate their differences, too.
- Be Authentically You: Don’t put on a fake persona. Seriously…authenticity is attractive. Let your personality shine through, and be open to connecting with someone who appreciates the real you. And if it doesn’t work out, there’s no worries, simply move on to the next one.
Conversation Starters that Spark Connection
- “What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?”
- “What’s one thing on your bucket list?”
- “If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?”
- “Tell me about a time you overcame a challenge.”
- “What’s something you’re really passionate about?”
- “Who are your favorite friends and family members?”
- Don’t be afraid to ask silly and fun questions as well!
Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Date
- DO: Be present and engaged in the conversation. Put your phone away!
- DON’T: Dominate the conversation. Make sure your date has a chance to talk too…
- DO: Be respectful of boundaries. Don’t get overly physical unless there’s clear and mutual interest.
- DON’T: Talk negatively about your ex or past relationships. It does not make you look good. In fact, it makes you look childish and unreliable.
- DO: Show appreciation for your date’s time. A simple thank you or offering to ‘go Dutch’ (split the bill) shows that you care.
- DON’T: Overindulge in alcohol. You want to be clear headed and present. Sure, have a few drinks together if that’s what you both enjoy, but be mindful of how drunk you get on a first date.
Conclusion
A successful date lays the foundation for a meaningful connection – which can and often does lead to romance and love.
So, focus your efforts on building genuine conversation, showcasing your authentic self, and being present in the moment!
Remember, red flags are there for a reason. Look for someone who sparks genuine connection, not just physical attraction.
With a little effort, you can turn that app match into a promising real-life connection!